To be or not to be the way we are...
I think that some people take that saying way to far. I say this because no matter how hard we try to be someone we are not someone always ends up getting hurt. when i say this i mean, that when we women act like we don't give damn that's are way of protecting our selves from the cruelty of men. We tell them that it is ok and we act like what they don't bother us, and you know what that might be true but men tend to take that to the max. Just because we say we don't care, don't think that's an opening for you to tell us about the things you are doing when we are not around. I mean come on, don't you men know that women say that to see if we can trust you with our feelings. We women are delicate creatures and we are cautious of our hearts and who we give them to. That's why we might act like or try to be different from who we really are,because we don't want to be labeled as emotional or difficult.
Men i am not letting you off the hook either, don't think you are innocent, because you are not. Men are the main ones who do this. They come off so sweet and caring at first and then its a complete 180. They say they love you, then they start treating us like ____. They say they can be loyal but be honest, men you can only be as loyal as you are faithful to the woman you are with. You tell us to give you time, but how much time is enough? Do you think that we have nothing better to do? Do you men think that you are the center of our world, because if that's the case you need to be slapped. We women are gifts from god and some of us do have problems but just because you have come across some bad apples don't make the rest of us suffer. Men you need to open your eyes and look at the beautiful women that you have around you. Look at them as gods special gifts for you and realize that if you treat them poorly then god will take your gifts as easy as he gave them to you. I think that as a man you should treat a woman the way that you would want a man to treat you daughter. I know that sounds strange but think about it, would you want your daughter to be walked over and have her feelings hurt? No. So,why do you treat women like this? Tell us the truth and don't worry we are big girls we can take it. Tell us what you want and don't want. Lastly don't CHANGE the way you are to make us happy and then when we are comfortable you switch back to the
person you really are. If you have a woman in your life that you think might be the one for you, take my advice and be a man and tell her how you feel. Hold on to her, because she might just wake up and realize that you are not worth her time or heart.........
Women have a choice to stand by her man or to let him go, but sometimes that is easier said then done.
As a woman i found myself in the same situations and let me tell you they can burn and make you shut down. I have male friends that i love dearly and i must say that if i could have an hour with them i would tell them about them selves. I would tell them not to take women for granted just because " there are more fish in the sea". I would also tell them that if the women in their lives are just friends, they should still treat them right, because they can walk away just the same.
