I know i said a while back that i was not going to send out any new post, but i just could not help my self.
Have you ever looked at your self and asked, why do i put up with things that i know i should not? Well, I have, and for some reason i keep on putting up with the crap. I know a few other people like this as well. I don't know why we keep putting up with the promise of change, holding on to hope that maybe just maybe one day things will change. I don't know if that makes us weak or stubborn. Is it wrong to want good things for the people in our lives? Is it wrong to want to see them grow and become the person you know they can be, if they only tried? I don't think it is wrong, because in making them better, it works out for us as well. When you want your friends to be better and stronger is that a selfish thing? I think not, because friends should always want the best for each other.
Look at me I am a kind sweet, honest, loyal, and loving friend. I would hope that the people in my life would see that and appreciate me for the person that i am. I have to learn when to say or tell people when they are pissing me off or when they have hurt my feelings. I am going to say this, i am getting tired of being the one to reach out and put myself out there for people who don't care.
Now, to all the "men" in the world that might expect me and the women like me to roll over and give in, let me tell you, enough is enough.
I had a guy friend that i use to date tell me that the reason he is and was an ass to me was, because i am too nice. I think that is a bunch of B.S. So, basically he was telling me that if i were to act like a cold hearted snake then he would have treated me better. Since when does being sweet mean being open to the a-holes in the world. I don't get it if we ask too many question you " men" tell us to mind our own business, but if we don't ask enough you take that as us saying that we don't care. You "men" need to make up your minds about what you want, how you feel, and be straight forward and honest with the women in you lives. If you just want to be friends, say it and don't try to use us when it is only for your pleasure, if you want a friends with benefits thing, that fine to just tell us, but it you don't know what you want you need to let us know so that our hearts wont get hurt.
I am done. I am tired of the "men" and there games. I have decided to be alone until i am ready to put myself though anymore pain. I am going to spend time with my female friends and i am also going to spend time with me male friends, because they help me in ways that they don't even know. It is one thing to have a female friend but when you have a guy friend and a real guy friend they know just what to do and say to make you feel better. They know how to make you laugh and they might even let you yell at them when you are pissed at the guy that you like but are not talking to at the moment.
Here is something for all the men to to keep in mind:
If you are dating or interested in someone let them know how you feel, spend time with them, and don't ever neglect them. I say this because a female friend will always be there for you, but not in the same way a partner will be. Also, keep your female friends close or at least your real ones, because they will tell you when you are messing up, but only if they have your best interest at heart. Never let any woman in your life that you claim to care about feel like they are a red headed step-child, because if you do one day you will look up and they will be gone and you will be left wondering why.
xoxoxo
