Why we change....

Why is it that some guys think that you should change just for them? I'm sorry to say but that's not how it works. We change, and that's if we change at all, when we feel you have earned it. Guys want us to be all lovie dovie from the get go and that not happening. They want you to tell them how you feel about them and what you see haopening in the future. What guys don't seem to get is that when you have been hurt one to many times, your wall goes up and it stays up. We will let that wall down when we feel safe or when we think we can trust the person we are with. And after you have been hurt by someone you trusted, its something that's hard for you to do again.
Why can't they just enjoy what ever you are giving them? Why are they in such a hurry to kno what's in our heads? I don't know. But I do know this 9 out of 10 once you do that's when they hit the ground running. They think they want to kno how we feel and granted some really do, but others just want to kno for their own egos. Some men feel like once they have you, then they have wone some kind of game. What they don't know is that that is what makes us cold and damn near heartless.
I read the book " act like a woman and think like a man" and I loved it. It was so true on many points. It has made me take a long look at my self and how I am with men and how I once was. I was the sweet girlfriend the one who would cook and take care. I was the one who was always there when they needed me. I bent and twisted to make a man happy. I let down my guard and told them how I felt and in the end I was the one who was hurt. Now no more nice sweet tiff. I'm not going to be mean but if you want from me then your going to have to earn it. I don't trust men because I lied to and I know too many who can't be, so I figure why bother. I know there are still a few nice guys out there and I'm sorry, because they will suffer because of the damage other men have caused. I know a lot of women who feel this way and it sucks because we all want to be happy but we have to go through hell to find that.
My friend called me a true capricorn and I agree with him. I did tell him that I was not always that way. I found that if you make them work harder then they will show you how they feel by their actions.